I also do not like the way men are portayed in games, though Kyle Katarn was reasonable. Guys like Dwayne Johnson and Jason Mamoa do not intimidate me; they are actors selling their body as a marketable image.
I usually play as a woman if possible because I get to watch a fine ass walking around. The developers know.
If you are not prepared to arm up and defend yourselves it will never get any better, and calling everyone who tells you that “gun nuts” and “ammosexuals” is not gonna inspire anyone to defend you. Begging is not going to work; violence is the only reasonable response.