Idea is good, in principal. Can I just offer some thoughts to get things happening smoothly.

Bullying, what type? I can only offer general overall advice without specifics. So I’ll offer some food for thought, What if that person is neurodivergent and doesn’t understand they’re bullying, or coming across too blunt. I would suggest, address the behaviour directly, succinctly and without judgement.

Talk as if they’re an alien and don’t understand our culture, and you have belief once they understand they will step up. But say it as plainly, in the least amount of words possible. Don’t leave room to debate, just straight plain facts. This causes this. Please don’t.

Ask how you can help them be more effective in positive engagement.

On a personal note it’s always a good idea to listen to the messages your body is giving you, those emotions are a need your body has, it isn’t about anyone else, it’s about your lived experience and how comfortable you are in your environment. Times you haven’t felt safe can be a trigger for you in the future, and then bullies words hurt more. If you feel you have unhealed trauma or a low sense of self and self worth because the world in general has chewed you up, (which it does so often it’s almost a universal experience) find and build on yourself in those areas. It doesn’t minimise that the bullies are harmful, just utilise their efforts to find places you can up skill and heal, if they are being highlighted for you. They still suck. You just take what they give you and turn it into a tool to build on yourself and build yourself up. Be genuine, curious and open and deep dive on your feelings. Eventually, after studying what’s freely available out there and uplevelling your sense of self, you start to see all of the bullies behaviours are entirely about their own broken insides and damage. It’s really hard to be upset by words from someone you pity.

Avoiding toxic environments is a better way to live. Finding ways to make that environment non toxic is a good life philosophy. Do your labour laws already have protections built in to protect you from psychological abusive type behaviours in the workplace?

Oh! Someone pronounced his name wrong! Bad form, on them.

Question: did anyone notice, In TNG, anyone say “data” referring to information, but with the different pronunciation to “Data”, in the show? Why did I not think to look out for this till now!

I taught my cats to high five. That’s a bit fun.

They talk about how to look for a tighter weave in the fabric, how a thinner fabric let’s the uv radiation through. This is common knowledge, where I’m from. The childcare centres send out notices about it. Do you need to be scientific about basic knowledge? This is basic stuff, buddy.

That’s what I was thinking, it essentially makes bosses obsolete and they don’t want the system to be deconstructed from the top down, ever. That’s toppling capitalism, kinda talk.

The uv radiation permeates the fibres, even when there aren’t holes that aren’t supposed to be there. It’s dependent on the thickness of the weave. Fun new fear to unlock. https://www.solbari.com.au/blogs/solbari-blog/can-uv-go-through-clothes

Not as much as you would think, and especially less nowadays with companies cheapening out on quality.

I recently discovered hell on wheels, while waiting out the next season of snw. I swear I need a fan to be able to watch it! Holy drool!

Isn’t it going to be more likely the men who taught him to hate women than women? That’s kinda incel thinking that the women caused it / deserve it, somehow. Incel is a cult, it’s fed by a lot of stuff online. It’s my take that extremely unbalanced overblown ego + not getting what they want = hate the things that don’t just give them what hey want, rather than be capable of self reflection. And the whole upbringing of men is socially oppressed by toxic masculinity to “be the best” (= toxic ego / never question the self), because if they are “the best” it’s others that are wrong, it can’t be them, and they can’t handle the cognitive dissonance of having any faults (aka being human) which would equate them to being not “the best”. So by their maths, the equation is “actually it’s everyone else that’s the problem and if I have to twist logic, reason and reality while crating crazy conspiracy theories, rather than self reflect, I will”

“Gotta be in it to win it.” bonus points if it’s obviously only a painful task.

Oh and, nearly forgot my personal favourite, if I’m about to do something stupid, I say

“if I die from this, you have to write it on my gravestone.”

I probably say that one way too often for my age…

You gotta die somehow, may as well make it a good story to tell.

How connected are you with your own emotions and emotional needs? How do you go filling your own emotional needs in healthy ways? First and foremost you have to start there. Reconnect with your emotions, sit with them, every day, and just really listen to them. You don’t have to do what they say, but they’re an important form of communication from your instincts and human needs, to you and for you. Your emotions are for you.

Emotions are kinda like, when you put your hand in the shower before you get in, to test the heat, imagine ignoring that, wouldn’t go well. Emotions come up to tell you something about your environment and what you need from that environment.

Sometimes your emotions just need reassurance. If you’re in the practice of ignoring your emotions, they get loud, and eventually fester, so it’s important to listen to them, validate them, acknowledge them, and then they usually move on, that’s all emotions want. if it’s an inconvenient emotion for your situation, acknowledge it, notice it without judgement, remind yourself that you are not your emotions, you are the entity observing your emotions, and that one doesn’t serve you right now, thank it and let it go.

Connecting with your own emotions in a healthy way and sharing them, is part of emotionally connecting with others.

The other part is connecting with their emotions and caring for those. Make space for people to have emotions, all of them, be curious about people’s emotions, ask questions, validation their experience (because all emotions are valid, regardless if they’re showing up at what is considered by some as the “right time”)

When someone is talking about their emotions they may want you to validate and acknowledge, sometimes people fall into the trap of trying to “fix” the issue associated with the emotion or situation causing the emotion, but actual emotional connection is validating and acknowledges that emotional response and making space for it to exist.

Imagine the emotions people are feeling are like a huge meal they’ve painstakingly cooked and put all their effort into. If someone came along and said it was bad or threw it straight in the bin, that would be really dejecting. Take time to work through each piece of emotion that crop up in a situation, for people around you, and the effort and energy that comes along with each step, like you would ask how they make each part of the dish, break it down to beginning to now, in process. You don’t want to just sweep it off the table. When did the emotion start, go back to then, and then relate, you can understand feeling like that, and it’s understandable for anyone and just leave space for them to talk. People are kinda using others to emotionally regulate, so letting them know their emotions are welcome and safe to express and validating them, makes them see you as a safe person.

It all starts with connecting with your own emotions, so practice makes perfect, keep at it!

I call bullshit in Australian minimum wage, because they’ve been doing just fine paying more than that here, for quite a while.