The comment left by johannes is spot on. I can relate to a lot of how you describe your mom, but I very much share their mentality on the matter. At some point, you have to own that you are who you are because of your choices. Just because someone/something may have influenced or caused your flaws doesn’t mean you have to lay down and take it forever. If you do, that’s your choice and the blame shifts to you, whether you want to accept it or not.

It’s hard, but you’ve gotta realize that you have 2 “good” options. Either cut her out of your life and figure out how to be self-sufficient, or keep her in your life, but set boundaries. You cannot expect her to just change on her own, because thats not going to happen. It’s really difficult to set boundaries, but it worked for me and my mom. Granted, I needed to not be living with her or dependent on her to be strong enough to do it. If she is housing you, feeding you, cleaning for you, etc., she has a lot of power over you, and will continue to use that as leverage to get her way. And when she doesn’t have that power over you anymore, she’ll likely focus hard on the emotional power she has over you. You need to focus on getting out of her house so you can stand a chance at successfully setting boundaries.

Also helped a lot that my brothers helped pave the way. Maybe talk to your brother about starting the practice of setting his own boundaries since he’s more independent. Lean on each other. I would’ve struggled so much more without my brothers, and they are the only ones that truly knew what I was going through since they grew up with the same mom.

Good luck. It’s going to be a really difficult road, but don’t give up. Once you make it through, I promise life will be so much better, and you’ll be a stronger person for it.

That’s such a weird way to execute that… like if you’re gonna steal someone’s style, just go buy copies or something very similar. Still weird, but way less weird than what this chick did.

Maybe she was trying to be you or some shit.

Your what now

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Brooklyn woman sues Subway, claims Steak & Cheese sandwich in ad has ‘200% more meat’.

My condolences on losing your sibling. Wonderful of you to take her in.

What’s the source of the regret? I just turned 30, and am still undecided.

Huh, I kinda feel the opposite. You need (or at least SHOULD) be very attentive to a pup. Dogs, in general, tend to crave/require more attention. Cats are more hands-off, so they often attract the kinda people who want a pet for the sake of having a pet - which tend to be narcissistic types.*

*not true of all cat people

Outer Wilds.

If you like space games and puzzle games (in the sense that you need to piece together the situation you’re in), this is a great choice.

Highly recommend not looking anything up before you play.

I agree that the idea of it is terrifying. I just feel like they executed it poorly in the movie. They somehow made it a little hokey.

Talk To Me. I would also say Sinister and The Conjuring are my favorites, and I also struggle to find scary movies that genuinely scare me. Watch this alone in the dark the first time. It is now my all-time favorite scary movie, and it’s fairly recent.

Burnout 3 baby!!

Go fuck yourself

When I was first starting as a server at this one restaurant, I swear every other phrase out of my coworkers’ mouths when they saw me during the entire first 2 weeks was, “you having fun yet?”. And everytime, I’d give a half-assed smirk and say “oh you know it”. So dumb. That phrase still irritates the shit out of me to this day.

I wear a bra because I feel weird when my tits are bouncing freely in public, or when I know that others can see my nipples. I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with going braless, but I definitely have been conditioned to feel weird about it, and it’s hard to shake.

I have a fair amount of freckles. I don’t come from or live in an area where it’s very common.

You’re a great dude, Margot Robbie.

No, but with all of the hype and excitement around it, I thought there was something extra-special about this movie. Like an interesting/unexpected story.

Barbie.

I like Margot Robbie. I like Ryan Gosling. I like fun movies. But idk, it just didn’t really appeal to me, and the plot felt predictable. I don’t regret watching it necessarily, but I also have no interest in watching it again.

Couldn’t have said it better myself.

Stop this thread, and burn it with fire.