It has occurred to me that Vulcan must have some form of sex industry to handle those going through Pon Farr who aren’t currently married or otherwise involved. Otherwise, they’d have constant issues with violence from those suffering the “blood fever” whose spouse was far away, or had died, or for some other reason had no one to mate with.
Given Vulcan attitudes towards sex, it’s probably kept out of sight, and is only “officially” available to those experiencing their “Seven Year Itch,” but it has to exist, right?
I see the logic in your approach but you are also thinking in pretty human categories to begin with. Just giving in to the urge and going to a sex worker for quick and easy relieve does seem neither very disciplined nor particularly Vulcan, doesn’t it? Specialized monasteries where Vulcans go to sit it out while meditating and if that fails, mind melding with celibate monks who are specialized in extreme mental discipline, sounds more like it imo.