Been homeless over 6 years. My social services agency, high turnover. Being female , almost all my case managers have been female, standard practice.
Out of 17 case managers, only 2 have been male. Female cms: detailed, logical, responsive, solution oriented, clear effective communication. Male cms, the opposite.
I try to communicate clearly, effectively, which is easy cuz autism, and the 2 male cms, i get constant 2nd guessing, passive-aggressive defensiveness. Get impression they’re automatically assuming I don’t think clearly, don’t know what I’m saying. It’s weird, and I can’t figure out why.
I know not all men are the same. I’m not like all women. Have I just been unlucky with these 2 cms, or is there a gender aspect to this I’m not understanding? I’d like to learn.
You need more than two to make sweeping observations about the whole population… if two of them were assholes then those two are assholes. Don’t move the goal posts.
I think we’re saying the same thing?
But separately, yes it is possible for men in general and women in general to behave differently. Sexism is when you judge an individual based on generalizations about gender. So it would still not be right to avoid male case workers just because other male case workers you’ve worked with were assholes, even if it were true that male case workers are more frequently assholes! Judge people for who they are, not the class they belong to.
I guess I misread your comment as being sarcastic in an awful way (i.e. two cases can’t be sexism but with a third you’d have definite proof). ADHD can do that sometimes so my apologies!
Ironic how one goes from pointing out assumptions based on internal fictions can lead to incorrect and often overblown external reactions… to blaming ADHD for the same. 😜🤌🏽