My view is that there are shades of gray between kissing family and kissing with the intent to have sex. To me there is distinction between a kiss shared during a date and one that is shared as you’re stumbling towards a bed with a partner. One is an “I love you” kiss (romantic) and the other is “let’s fuck now” (sexual).
I’m ace. Kissing and some cuddling makes me very uncomfortable, because it often leads to sex. There have been times that I thought I was sharing a sweet kiss with someone and suddenly they’re trying to slide hands under my clothes. So in my mind that was a romantic kiss, but to the other person it was sexual. This is why it’s so important for people like me to fully discuss things before we start dating someone.
There are different types of ace, you’ll see some aces say they are sex-favorable. That means they don’t feel sexually attracted to anyone, but they will engage in sex. On the opposite side of the spectrum is sex-repulsed. That’s me, I feel absolutely disgusted by sex.
I don’t really like yoga, personally. I do love stretching, and have some favorites that I’ll do throughout a day. But sitting in a stretch and being “mindful” just irritates my mind, in the same way that meditation does. I have hEDS so stretching is more for keeping my muscles limber, and to get some blood flowing, than it is for my ligaments or joints anyway
You just reminded me that my therapist sent me a mood wheel, too. I ended up ignoring it because it was color coded lol.
But in that same packet she sent me some grounding techniques to try, and that’s actually been really useful for me to pull out of a meltdown. Box breathing is my favorite one, but seriously there’s so many to try
Maybe stop trying to use words. Use colors or textures, make a little posterboard and work through what looks or feels right in her head. Meaning, if dark blue means she’s scared, or if green means she’s frustrated that’s okay. Don’t just go with red= angry if that didn’t feels right for her. Let her use as many colors or textures as she needs to get her point across.
It’s also really important to include what she wants from you on this board. Like, just shut up for an hour, or hold her, or go to the store and get her favorite soda. This is just to help her build trust that she can have some control in an uncomfortable situation. Right now she might not really have that, and may be why she’s landed on avoidance
Use it while physically together, but also take a picture so a screenshot can be shared with little edits over what she’s associated with her feelings.
When I’m overstimulated by emotions I have an internal meltdown that can graduate to external if I’m being pushed. I absolutely can’t think of words in that state, and often I’m afraid to even express myself in those moments.
Chaos gardening is life! I did a research experiment last year on a plant that is native to my state, but has largely been eradicated by local ranching and farming practices. I’ve fucking delighted in finding chaotic people who are willing to throw whatever remaining seeds I have wherever they can. If that’s the power we have, let’s use it!
Or rations
Every single Vietnamese person I’ve known has only driven motorcycles or scooters, because the roads are already too congested to handle large vehicle traffic. I know autos are available for hire, but realistically is it even worth owning an American SUV in Vietnam?
They went from enjoying an upward trend in tourism revenue across the country, to projections of $10+b in loss within six months. They’re not going to get that much money from the American citizens they are encouraging to travel.
Shit, it isn’t even really safe to travel across states anymore, who knows what they’ll imply from your traffic data. A young woman traveled across state lines and needed medical care? Time to accuse her of an abortion, and tack on federal charges while they’re at it.
It’s going to be wonderful for our economy
I’m sure this has nothing to do with international tourism sharply dropping.
My grandparents had a cat named Pussy. My grandma was so upset when I told her what that was slang for
Ori and the Blind Forest/ Will of the Wisps Still the only two games that I’ve sought out and added the music to my playlists, although Skyrim and LoZ songs tend to be covered by artists in my daily rotations