To what end, though? What purpose will it serve if you haven’t told him that following those girls is unacceptable to you?

And before somebody tells me it’s always unacceptable, that’s not true. In my relationship, both of us watch porn, and that’s what we consider these Instagram models because they’re often selling their only fans. My husband and I have an agreement that I don’t care what porn he watches, he doesn’t care what porn I watch, we are allowed to pay some only fans subscriptions (not an unreasonable amount, and support small businesses, yo!) Hes just not allowed to converse and develop a relationship with them, and same goes for me. We are very open about it.

What im saying here to you, OP, is that if a behaviour like this bothers you, you need to tell him so he knows rather than just waiting for him to fuck up. Do not operate under the assumption he knows because you may have different upbringings and what may seem obvious to you may not be so obvious to him. Give him the opportunity to be trustworthy in the way you need.

You don’t get to 10 years by playing games like this. You get there by both wanting to put in the work, because relationships are work and communication, and most of this is within the first few years.

Additionally, never be afraid of a relationship ending. There is no such thing as “the one”, there will always be someone that ticks your boxes, so to speak.

Yesss!! I’ve been with the same man for 10 years and we’ve had so many clumsy discussions when working through feelings, but that’s just how communication goes sometimes.

If you’re not bringing up your feelings because you’re afraid it will end the relationship, that’s silly. If that ends the relationship, the relationship would have always ended.

This is why community is such an act of protest against fascism. Government won’t let you buy what you need? Oh, well we have a community with gardeners, farmers, bakers, etc.

Community, y’all, thats how we survive. We survive and we fight together.

I think they mean learning about history slaps. History is both interesting and extremely important even when it’s depressing.

Encouraging learning about history is something we should continue to do, even if it means using collloquialisms.

Getting it sugared is slightly less painful!

Alternatively, as a weird kid that grew up to be an autustic adult, he could --through this weird behaviour – potentially find other kids of his ilk (hell, it only takes one close friend) and they can blunder through together.

Shout out to my best friend of 20-some years, with whom I once dressed up as a Monty python and the holy grail character and skipped around the park carrying coconuts and shouting weird things about shrubberies.

Not if you dry them!

That’s completely relative. Literally anything will change your life, or nothing, it depends on your perspective.

Saying “it wouldn’t change my life” means literally fuck all to the people whose lives it would change.

Like good for you, I guess?

Not always, but often, yes. It depends on what your alternative potential uses for the money are.

Paying that large of a chunk of a mortgage would absolutely reduce your future interest costs though.

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You hit the nail on the head with that one.

I wonder if Ted Chiang was inspired by Vonnegut’s Slaughterhouse-Five

I’ll look into it, thanks!

I wonder whether it has changed in the last 16 years

Yes but this works a non-zero part of the time

Fair enough, but it does help for telephone companies in my experience

Or motherlode

Ah fuck that’s scary

Honestly I didn’t get the joke because i didn’t know anything about BRICS until just now 😅