The last paragraph sounds like her she will go quiet unless you keep poking at an issue then she will talk but be extra moody. She’s totally normal day to day and not super autistic it’s mild. Another commenter said to try a mood wheel. They sent a few examples and I saved them to try to send to her as a tool in the bag. That’s the type of ideas I was looking for.
Perhaps that was way over stated. All our interactions are not negative but for the sake of the post I was focusing on those aspects to find tools to improve myself and her to communicate more effectively.
In no way shape or form are our interactions as basic as that sounded. We function almost entirely normal. Do normal activities, go places, hangout, work and hobbies. When I meant basic interaction I don’t mean she sits on bench and cannot function. I just meant anything outside of typical day to day like intricate displays of emotion or communication about our relationship issues is where the wall hits. Its not trust. Or as dead sounding as that seemed. Its that she lacks ways to articulate her emotions and what to say.
I’m very fast paces mentally And physically. I’m ADHD through and through so going slow and feeling tired is not in my mindset. She takes forever, can’t talk deeply, has trouble mentally in all aspects. I’m more like a racecar and she’s like a turtle. Nothing is wrong with that. We have good chemistry. But it’s not easy past the chemistry stage. Because our childhoods, adult mentality are so different.
Edit: We are very open, direct. We plan sexual activities, we plan almost all activities. But anything past basic conversations gets lost in translation for her. I’m very supportive, we both are for each other. The dynamic is good. Just the communication sucks no matter how much we try. Consistency is her flaw, depth. I am the doer. I do, plan, almost everything. She’s more idle, watch, hands off plans and couldn’t make a decision on where to eat if she tried. Shed starve to death. Highly indecisive.
This is a good idea. This is exactly the type of tool I was looking for. Any other good suggestions? Methods I can improve on. Thanks! I will try these and see which she likes.
We do all this. We are direct. She has trouble finding the words, or has no clue what to say. I was trying to find tools, resources, and ideas how to empower her to communicate. She wants to talk. Wants to tell me things. But when it’s time to talk or tell me she has no ability to. Not physically she can talk fine. Emotionally and mentally. It’s like a barrier between her brain and communication normal. With words. Like we all do.
We are very open, talk directly. She does not explain things well, has no real methods to communicate. We tries writing letters, we have tries texting, but she ends up getting frustrated And upset because she doesn’t know HOW to explain her feelings. She defaults to IDK. She will say that she wants to understand, wants to talk but does not understand her own feelings and thoughts to even know how or what to talk about. So we always just wind up in a stalemate and move on. We basically seem to agree we feel the same emotions but the communication between us is hard due to her inability to express it.
Edit: So I was asking for tools to use. Methods to try. Anything at all to attempt to gain insight into her. How can we grow and talk if she is incapable of explaining anything even basic emotions and feelings.
I guess the friends aspect would help alot. I don’t have many friends due to Severe medical issues. I really want to try Minecraft again and add a ton of mods and play build craft again. I’m more interested in machines and building systems.
Shut it down it was the shit when it first came out. Damn times have come and gone.
There must be loads and loads of autism types. I see comments like this on Lemmy across the board. When I think of autism I think of truly slow autistic people. Can you explain deeper? I’ve looked online but there’s a lot of wildly conflicting information.
I agree. But it’s so difficult not to when you watch people spend years making realistic jet planes with pistons. Makes me feel like my builds would be crappy.
Worked for mW through more than half a dozen schools growing up. I’d scan the lunch room. Plot down next to what appeared to be the cool kids. Talk my way in a little at a time. Learn some names. They get familiar seeing your face each day. Then your basically in.
I couldn’t ever get into Minecraft. Build craft yeah and other more in depth versions. One if the major things that turned me off the most was watching youtube. Before anything could be built but after watching people sink their life to make a flying plane or something insanely detailed. I don’t even want to try.
Just returned my Linux swapped Microsoft surface pro 8 top of the line edition got a banging deal but the whole folio aspect is not as good as laptop and keyboard popping up on text boxes in Linux are stupidly hjt and miss. Returned. The slate is also really hard to hold with a sleeve for your hand type case.
My Garmin last a month or two. Depends on the model. But it’s less smartwatchy and more health and fitness. Gps is accurate in all my tests down to about 2 feet. Takes me to and from my car in parking lots with ease. Geocaching is a breeze. Best of all the watches I’ve tried.
Garmin. Mine last 2 weeks to 2 months depending on the model. Nothing compares. Avid outdoors.
Garmin honestly makes some of the best money can buy. I’ve tried a bunch.
I have not heard of it but will do some preliminary studies to see about the concept. There are several types of data points for plant, algea, carbon locking and long-term co2 capture storage. How to process and deal with biomass and there’s some very mentally challenging projects you could choose to work on. I am very open to dialogue and discussion if you choose this path. I have studied it well. I am currently building a full carbon negative house. Reproducible and modern smart home not a clay hut or hippie house. Hands off, low maintenance. Perhaps we can continue if your interested.
Carbon offsetting. Carbon negative projects. Photobioreactors. Biogas digesters. Do something for the planet health.
I checked them both out and shared them. Thank you. These things are great. These techniques and tools people are suggesting are what I was looking for. Any other advice or suggestions let me know.