I don’t have any friends, so I’ve been trying to make some online and irl, so no I don’t know them that well. The only people I talk to on a regular basis are my family and coworkers and they say there’s no issue. So idk what the problem is.
The feedback I get is random, often times a week or more after an interaction. For example, I was watching a movie in a discord chat and people were making comments during the movie. I joined in with a few (fucking 3 comments) of my own and people laughed with me. I did not say anything else during the movie. A week later I get 3 messages saying I was a loud asshole during the movie. I joined a discord when someone was streaming and asked if I could watch. They said yes. I then get a message after I leave saying I was creepy and quiet. Like I don’t know what to make of this. This is what I mean by minefield. Social interaction has infinite rules and it is ridiculously easy to piss someone off by mistake.
I mean, my experiences interacting with people feel like navigating a minefield. I’ve had several times where I think everything is fine and then hours later I get texts and messages telling me how awful I behaved and how shit I am. I try to adjust to what they tell me because I feel bad if I bother other people and same thing happens. Like everything seems fine and then haha nope fucking loser.
And unfortunately my appearance does prevent me from having friends. I’ve been described as a 2 on a good day, trying to talk to men, even if it’s part of my job, often results in references to girlfriends or wives. I’m 32 and no one has ever asked me out or been interested in me. Women will sometimes take pity on me and talk to me for maybe a week or two but then the social awkwardness leads to them ditching me.
I’m ugly as shit and socially awkward.
I think there’s some people who do but the vast majority of people don’t. I mean, if we look statistically, people do very little intentional exercise unless they have to and despite repeated instructions to do more exercise from the government, media, doctors, the amount of people doing exercise hasn’t really changed. In fact, it’s gotten worse. Compare that to other hobbies or just watching TV or playing video games.
Also regarding exercise highs, clearly some people do get it but there is an extremely strange insistence that everyone can get it if they try and there’s not a lot of evidence for this. The majority of studies done on exercise highs are with already fit people who exercised regularly on their own. (And even then some studies had a hard time getting the effect to show up) Comparatively fewer studies are done on unfit, overweight and or obese people to see if they’re getting exercise highs at all.
Personally I think that trying to get people to enjoy exercise is setting them up for disappointment. Most people don’t like it, that’s why they don’t do it. I find most of my workouts neutral. A bit like doing a boring assignment at work. I think that’s the best way for people to look at it. Imo the key is not to hate it. If you hate what you’re doing, definitely change to something else. But if you’re consistent and just feel meh about it, I don’t think there’s any reason to chase some mythical awesome exercise that’ll totally make you love working out especially if you already have non physical hobbies you like.
I once worked as a driver helper for ups and my selfish dipshit driver refused to let me have breaks or use the bathroom. I had to beg someone I delivered a package to to use theirs after 12 hours with no break. I quit the next day.