I had a very similar schedule and commute that I did for 15 years when the pandemic hit. I remote work a possibility for you? One thing I was able to get my managers to agree on during that time was working from home on Fridays. That one day at home and that it was on a Friday made the rest of the work week a little more tolerable

My washing machine is a top loader and has a pause button that will stop the water fill/spin cycle so you can open the door. The washer waits until the cycle pauses completely then unlocks the door