You are assuming that people don’t want to be selfish and that everyone wants to live in peace, this is simply not true. People aren’t “evil” because they lack knowledge, nor because they are unloved. Meeting evil with love is a great way to get yourself killed or psychologically damaged by someone who enjoys being “evil” and thinks you’re an easy target to play with.

Overlooked doesn’t mean what you think it means.

Is the three musketeers really on par with the count? I’ve been meaning to read it for months but I always got the sense it would be disappointing.

All of HP Lovecraft’s stories.

I liked it until about half way through, it seemed to lose all the intrigue and then there was the weird bit about rape (if I remember correctly) at which point I gave up. Shame because it started well.

Just finished Embassytown by China Mieville. Haven’t read anything for ages so took the opportunity to get back into it on a lazy holiday. Highly recommend this book, or any by China, if you enjoy dense sci-fi.

Sounds like textbook NPD, particularly his backstory.

You mention gender role stereotypes but then fall prey to one when you clearly think you should be served first because of your gender. If you don’t believe in equality and would rather stick to ancient and out of date traditions that’s fine but perhaps he is a bit more progressive and you are not well suited to each other.

It’s ok for a woman to pay, it’s ok for a woman to suggest a second venue, it’s ok for a woman to make the first move. It’s not 1950 any more.

Regardless, like others have mentioned, having this much to question after one date isn’t a good sign.

You sound the coolest if you say you use Arch btw (this is a meme now).

It’s pretty common to bond over dislikes. Besides, disliking something isn’t negative, and there’s nothing wrong with being negative even if it were.

Yeah I was a bit perplexed by the mention of it being the strong stuff but I think you’re right.

When you look at support for things such as physical/emotional/financial abuse against men then it’s painfully lacking which can be devastating. This alone is a lot more widespread than you may think. Whether this warrants a minister is another question but there are areas which desperately need attention and it’s unfair to say just because women get the shitty end of the stick in general that men are not in need to support too.

Anything by Stanislaw Lem. I really liked Fiasco.

A valid reason for a start.

Same for all daws for me. I tried to get along with foss ones but they pale in comparison. Ardour crashed a lot for me, especially when the project got large with many plugins so I moved to reaper and had no such issues. On bitwig now and I can’t really think of anything even comparable that’s foss, let alone easier/better.

Her being a narcissist.

What are the great android apps for photoprism? Last time I looked there were two unofficial ones which were both not great and neither allowed you to upload from.

Yeah I think this might be the best and easiest solution. I’m really impressed with it too, I started with photoprism and the moved to nextcloud but there always seems to be something missing from the overall experience. Immich seems to fill all the gaps though.

Thanks! That is what I’ve been playing with but it’s not really what I need. When you go to Sharing, you can see the user and can click on their icon and see a timeline of their pictures but you don’t get the map or the People features from the shared pictures, it’s just an untagged timeline. It’s great as it is, don’t get me wrong, but for my use case it’s not ideal at all where I have the bulk of the family photo archives and I want everyone to be able to click on each other’s People icon and add pictures to the archive.

Thanks for the reply! Basically, I don’t want us to have our own libraries. I have tons of family images which Immich face-recognises and I can merge them accordingly and set up albums etc. However, when I create another user, this user can only see the photos through the Sharing page and cannot see the Faces/People tagged by the recognition, it’s just a gallery of dated pictures. Presumably I will have the same experience for pictures they share.

What I want is for all users to be able to all the People (tagged by the facial recognition). With the way that sharing appears to work this wouldn’t be possible if my family members were individual users so I am wondering if the only way around this is to have just one generic user login which everyone uses, that way we all get to see the People through the Explore page and can see the map for all pictures that everyone uploads.