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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • In another thread someone pointed out that there’s land lords and there’s property management. Sometimes one entity is both, but not always. Property management provides value for money- i don’t want to deal with maintaining the building myself, so I’ll pay someone to do it. Landlords just make money because they happen to own the place, but provide little to no value.

    Also private schools I think mostly are a vehicle for racism and undermining public schools. I don’t think they’re good.







  • I don’t disagree with anything here, really. As we both said, some responsibility remains on the user.

    I do think Match is aggravating the situation. Men aren’t getting traction so they search for why. They find right wing MRA stuff saying that it’s women’s fault blah blah blah, but really part of why they’re not getting hits is because Match is hiding them unless you pay (and even then maybe).

    Part of why may also be they’re creeps or bad at dating. It is not wholly the apps’ fault. But I do think they’re making it harder for people to connect, and that can be the top of the funnel for far right ideas.

    And I do think a lot of people are on the apps when they aren’t really ready. People of all genders. But that’s a separate topic, probably.

    Anyway. Good talk. Amusingly , I’m heading out to meet someone from a dating app. Here’s hoping they don’t think I’m a creep!



  • I was thinking the other day there’s probably a pretty straight line between Match group owning so many dating apps, men’s unhappiness, and violence.

    Like the apps create the illusion that you can meet someone and be happy, but their primary goal is to make money. They don’t try very hard to introduce you to good matches. They also haven’t solved the experience from the woman’s point of view. So men feel like they’re just shouting into the void, that people don’t like them, etc etc. Some of those people likely go on to become incels or do violence.

    This isn’t to say that violent men are not culpable. They are. They retain agency. But Match group (that’s tinder, okcupid, hinge, match, plenty of fish, and more) is making the problem worse.

    It’s like if there was a food shortage, and someone bought up all the grocery stores. Then they made all of them mazes and had half the cereal boxes empty.



  • I mean really it’s that some people’s interface with the world is backwards.

    Instead of it being like

    “Facts” -> “Emotions”

    for many people it’s

    “Emotions” -> “Facts”

    They don’t like Obama. Therefore, whatever he did is bad. That’s it. They’re like the common clay of the new west.

    I think Seth Meyers did a thing about how the right wing was freaking out about Biden having ice cream and saying that’s unpresidential and for old people, but like literally the same week Trump had ice cream and it was not a problem.