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Cake day: August 3rd, 2023

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  • I (late 20ies, then mid 20ies), after a failed degree and multiple stints in a local psych ward, just did the most boomer thing possible, walked into a shop at the local mall and asked.

    I only wanted to work 10 hours a week at first, but the manager misunderstood and submitted me for 20, I was too nervous to correct her.

    The trial day apparently went well, they sent me home after 2 hours instead of 6 because they were sure they wanted me. Didn’t tell me that tho, so when she sent me home after 2 hours, I cried the 4 remaining hours feeling worthless.

    The next day they called. I accepted, I worked really hard. 3 months later the temporary manager was moved somewhere else and for some reason they made me manager. That was two years ago.

    Some days I love it. Some days I hate it. But I never expected it to work out like that. I know I can’t do this forever, but it’s good for now.



  • Germany: basically after you’re out if elementary school (10/11), youre expected to only use the bathrooms in breaks or between lessons (at our school, you’d have two 45 minute lessons and then a 20min break in between). If you go in between lessons, you were supposed to tell the teacher, but you didn’t need to ask for permission. Going during the lesson was basically a emergency only thing.

    I don’t think that’s unreasonable or inhumane. Your not a toddler, you can hold your pee for a while and plan ahead. I can’t remember anyone ever having an accident or problem with it.






  • Well, it sounds like you’re going after women out if your league because you think they’re attractive and that’s a valid choice. But it is a choice you’re making. It sounds like you could have intimacy if you lowered your standards or increased you attractiveness (gym etc). Or you could abandon dating to not have to face rejections.

    So I think the key to avoid bitterness is to reevaluate if the choice you are making still works for you if it brings up bitterness. Then you can either stay with your choice or switch, if you don’t think any other option brings less negative feelings.

    And if you choose the best option for you, there’s no need for bitterness.